My boss has told me that I need to network more. But I find networking events are ghastly, with all the eager men dribbling over me. What can I do, short of turning up to work in a bin liner?
Banker, female, 27″
While it’s not surprising that feel that attractive people fare better in the workplace and life overall, it’s not always true. People judge you based on how you hold yourself and what you project. If you walk around like you’re the hottest thing out there and wear clothes that acentutate certain assets, then you will receive exactly what you put out there. There was the case of Debrahlee Lorenzana of Citigroup last year, a full-figured Puerto Rican woman – she claims that her appearance, as much as she attempted to cover up, was just too sexy for her co-workers to handle.
I have had co-workers who are drop-dead gorgeous and have all the guys drooling upon first sight, but after working with them for a while, they are highly respected and no one makes crass comments. But beautiful people don’t always have it easy, there are plenty of people out there who make it a point of putting them down, and at times they have to work harder to get the same respect a more brainy but less attractive colleague may receive.
“The findings came from a study by the University of Colorado Business School:
Attractive women were discriminated against when applying for jobs considered “masculine”, and for which appearance was not seen as important to the job… Positions such as manager of research and development, director of finance, mechanical engineer and construction supervisor were not considered favourable for attractive women.
“In every other kind of job, attractive women were preferred. This wasn’t the case with men, which shows that there is still a double standard when it comes to gender.” Attractive men, however, suffered no discrimination and were always at an advantage.
A study by MSNBC and Elle on the other hand, found “female bosses who were considered attractive were rated competent 58% of the time, compared with 23% for unattractive supervisors.”